Male Feminist Calls For “Liberating Cis Men” From The “Oppressive Force” Of Masculinity
Mychal Denzel Smith’s solution: “Progressive masculinity,” where everyone except straight men has a say in what defines masculinity.
Much of the work I’ve done here at Feministing has been an attempt to unpack the oppressive nature of our current constructs of masculinity. Sometimes this means discussing the ways in which defining masculinity around dominance, violence, coercion, and invulnerability limit the identities and expression of men who are beholden to this definition.
And I continue to believe that is an important conversation to have. It’s true that a patriarchal definition of masculinity and manhood is damaging to men — physically, emotionally, and psychologically. […]
My issue is that masculinity acts as oppressive force, and any conversation about oppression that leaves out the oppressed is not one I find worth having. What masculinity does to heterosexual cis men is important to discuss, but what it does to everyone else, especially women, is far more important. Because while it can leave us men broken in many ways, the privilege to be able to move through the world adopting this masculinity bestows upon us a tremendous amount of power. That power has been used to render everyone else second- and third-class citizens. This is the true danger.
When people of good faith and goodwill push this to the side to focus solely on the ways in which masculinity affects men and boys, it only serves to diminish the fight for gender equality by not dealing with it directly. When we re-center men in this discussion, we’re saying that the effects felt by women are not just secondary but can be ignored and still eradicated. That’s simply not true. It’s possible to do the work of redefining masculinity and liberating men from patriarchy and still reinforce the same gendered power dynamics under the guise of a “progressive masculinity.”
Ultimately, the definition of a progressive masculinity, if there is to be one, will not be cis het men’s to define, but to actualize. We will not be the experts on what this new masculinity should look like because we are not the ones whose liberation is truly at stake. We will only benefit from redefining masculinity if it is done with the goal dismantling the current power structure. We are not the ones best equipped to do that.